Nothing about grappling is really easy, but I think one of the biggest deterrents is that it’s painful. Unfortunately, there’s not a way around that. Doing jiu jitsu long term requires a high threshold for pain. Every black belt I know has a story of rolling in a cast or a splint, competing with torn or missing ligaments, or doing something stupid so they could get back on the mat. It is an incredibly steep learning curve for an incredibly physical activity. We all know it hurts, we just don’t care, and that’s probably the only attitude to have if you want to be a proficient grappler.