Seek the hard rolls, and don’t shy away from losing. We all want to win, we all want to have a good time in training, but that’s not necessarily how you get better. For those that train with me regularly, it may seem that all I do is beat you up, and that I never tap. Neither is true. I tap less because I am better prepared to correct mistakes I make because I’ve been messing up for 20 years. I consistently work on the same techniques across all of my students, or the same technique with a specific student to find the holes, and regularly do not achieve exactly what I am attempting. Trial and error + humility is the best way to improve your grappling. In a combat sport error and humility usually means taking a beating.